Sometimes it is incredibly easy to fall victim to the thoughts and comments of haters in your life. Why? Because that is exactly what their purpose is: to make you feel “less than” and to enforce the idea that your dreams and your goals will never come true. They are supposed to throw you off your game plan and make you second guess whether you’ve really thought your plans through to completion.
Haters come in many forms. They may come at you as your “best friend" with a big smile on their face as they “hate” on you. They may come at you as your worst enemy who loves to gossip behind your back and make your life as miserable as possible. They may even come at you as your boss who makes it their mission to ensure that you do not succeed at the company (for whatever twisted reason). They may even come at you through a family member or your relationship partner, who doesn’t believe that you should realistically pursue your heart’s passion because they don’t believe you’ll succeed at it - or that it is a waste of time and/or money.
Whatever form a hater comes in, acknowledge that a hater’s root mission is to tear you down for whatever reason a hater may have to do so. That said, don’t get consumed by a hater’s mission. If you focus on their vision for your life, you will never fully accomplish your dreams because your focus will be on a negative plan for your life, as opposed to a powerful one. You need to remember that everyone who has ever truly succeeded in this world had haters on the way up (e.g., Bill Gates, Oprah, Mark Zuckerberg, J.K. Rowling). But did these people let their haters step in the way of their success? No! Many successful people will tell you that they either ignored their haters or simply used their venom as fuel to keep pushing further to their goal. In fact, some people (like Kat Williams) say that if you don’t have haters, you’re not really trying to accomplish anything in your life.
I have several friends who have divulged how frustrated they are with certain haters in their life, whether the hater was a partner, a colleague, a friend, or a family member. But one of the things that I remind them is that they should remember that haters will be there – and their mission is simply to hate. There is no further mathematical calculation to a hater’s logic or purpose. The big question that I always push is: what are you going to do about it? Are you going to get lost in the hater’s twisted vision, or are you going to realize that a hater’s existence in your life probably means you are destined for something big? Always remain true to your passions, and don’t let anybody – no matter who they are – throw you off your life’s purpose.